Dear Reader, Yours and Always

An honest blog of my life, thoughts and ideas.

Making it Complicated

Dear Reader,

If you have only just started dating someone - don’t go away for the weekend.

Here’s why:

1) You spend a lot of time thinking about them.
2) They spend a lot of time thinking about you.
3) You have late night chats online and say something that freaks them out.
4) You don’t realise that the words you say online are more powerful than those never said.


It meant we had to talk properly about issues that were worrying us and although that was difficult it was worthwhile.

In the end we got stronger. It was the first bite of reality in a honeymoon period. This is an important step for couples to take and some won’t last.

(Normally mine don’t.)

Take care.

Yours and Always

James Lawrence

Blog Birthday

Dear Reader,

Yesterday my blog turned two and I spent it on date number 4 watching Birds of Prey (Superheroine TV Show) cooking dinner together and …

So if that’s a good sign of progress. It was worth celebrating.

I watched Clueless the other day and now use the word ‘sporadically’ as much as possible. So sorry for making this blog so sporadic, when I’m miserable and alone again I might write more.

Yours and Always

James Lawrence

Coming or going?

Dear Reader,

It’s been a while. It always is. You just have to forgive me.

This is a lesson about boys. Not men. Boys.

A man is the type of fellow who knows responsibility, is attentive and does not play games.

A boy is the guy who likes to do his own thing, ignores you when you try to make plans and is self absorbed.

Why am I telling you this? Because I have found yet another boy in my search for a man.

Yes I love that you have your own life and being independent is great and I accept that things are new so you probably don’t want to hear from me constantly, however…

A simple message to ask how your work is going, what films you like and if you are free to meet are not ridiculous to ask over the course of a week apart. It is not going to kill you if you would reply decently to at least one of the above.

If someone doesn’t want to let you into their life, perhaps it’s just not worth helping them get into yours.

On a side note don’t mention to people that they remind you of your ex. It may be the root of the problem…

Yours and Always

James Lawrence


Dear reader,

This year I’ve managed to achieve more than I had even conceived I was capable of. It means a lot to me what I’ve done but sometimes the real achievement seems to be having that person to share it with.
The person who will always cheer you on, congratulate you and make it feel like so much more than a new job, degree or play, has always been the person I wanted to find.
I think I lost that for a while, there wasn’t really anyone that special in my life pushing me to do things, I thought it was all self-motivation. That was until I realised one thing.
I wasn’t doing these things for me, but I was doing them for the friends around me. I moved city recently and my achievements were feeling hollow. That was until I started making friends again and it was worthwhile once more.

Your worth is more than personal gain, do something for others by making yourself great.

Yours and Always

James Lawrence

New Year

Dear Reader,

Potential is inside us all. If one person can look up to the moon and say “I want to go there” and make it happen then we are limitless, the only thing that holds us back is fear.

Fear is powerful, it can grow from something as small as doubt, as weak as a bad thought and grow into a tumour of fear.

Don’t let fear stop you this year. Try to overcome it, you can be limitless. I read this recently: impossible tells you that I’m possible.

Be possible.

Yours and Always

James Lawrence

Somewhere in the World it is Sunny

Dear Reader,

Today’s lesson is optimism. Optimism is not being silly and thinking that all things are good, but believing that there are opportunities.

If we believe that things can be possible we can try and do well. If we worry that things might not be possible then they become harder.

I am in a place where I don’t want to worry about things, but I am avoiding attempting them, not because they are impossible, but because they are hard.

So what can be done? For me, I think it is up to the individual to make a decision to make things manageable. Split a problem up, what are the real reasons why you think something is difficult? Perhaps it is because it really matters. This idea can be applied to a lot of circumstances in life. If we compartmentalise our problems then they are in boxes we can open one at a time and sort out.

It might be a cloudy day today, but tomorrow there might be more time, you might have more energy and more enthusiasm for a challenge. Just wait another day.

Yours and Always

James Lawrence

Single at Christmas

Dear Reader,

Merry Christmas, almost.
This is for the singletons out there. Just because we are alone this Christmas, it doesn’t mean we aren’t loved.
Sometimes, it is harder to know that here is someone out there who loves you, but you don’t love them back. For that, it is worse, because we probably already know what that feels like.

Sorry C, I know it’s hard.

It might be the holiday season, but don’t force yourself to fall in love. Think of Christmas like any holiday romance, you take a step out from normality, you are surrounded by family or close friends, you are merry, you want to have fun, stop yourself. It might just hurt them a little bit more than it will make you feel good for not being alone.

Like any holiday, Christmas is temporary, by the time it is a new year you’ll want a fresh start.

Unless it’s true love for you both under the mistletoe. Stay happy alone, don’t let your Christmas spirit get the better of you.

Just a little warning, don’t break their hearts.

Be with your loved ones, not your ex-lovers.

Yours and Always

James Lawrence

Bleach the illness out.

Dear Reader,

My dad is in hospital again, this time it isn’t so bad.

He might be on oxygen, tied up to dopamine, on all his usual medication and struggling to walk about but this is kind of healthy for him.

That sounds really awful but at least he hasn’t had a major operation like those times before, at least he isn’t terminally ill.

It is still stressful though, I know he is getting lonely and bored there and unfortunately I don’t have enough time to see him every day. It upsets me that I can’t keep him company. It upsets me that I’m focusing on my own life.

I need to vent more about it but I have work tomorrow and need to go to bed.

Hospitals are standard to me, I feel like I have grown up in them. Don’t be scared if you’re not the patient.

I’m just annoyed my cousin who hasn’t seen my dad. I think they are scared of hospitals and it isn’t fair. Don’t forget who helped look after you when you were young.

Yours and Always

James Lawrence

Happy Birthday

Tumblr told me it is this blogs birthday.

A year ago my dreams, my loves and my life seem different, but I am still in a similar position.

This day however, is the first day an article of mine has been published online.

I think I am going to celebrate that more than this, but I wouldn’t have gotten as far with writing if I didn’t practice on a personal blog.

So reader don’t give up.

Sorry it is brief but I have work tomorrow.

Yours and Always

James Lawrence

The boy who lived

Dear Reader,

This week is a special week because someone famous for something that was out of their control, was born.

We have had a while to react, get excited about the hype and gush over the photos.

Britain we have not gone crazy.

Every child is a miracle.
Midwives will tell you about stillbirths.
Abortions DO happen.
Every condom used prevents life.
These are all facts of life.

The odds for that specific day, that time, those two genetic materials combining, if any factor changes… And yet we only celebrate the special.

Britain, people will say we are crazy because it is just a baby. But this baby is our country. His parents our figureheads of our society. This is a celebration of all the miracles. It didn’t matter if it was a girl or a boy, it just had to happen.

I keep saying we are not crazy, because if we didn’t celebrate life, we would be.

Celebrate, keep on celebrating. You might never know him, but maybe you’ll be influenced by him. Maybe he will present an award to you and you will be connected. This is life so celebrate it.

Yours and Always

James Lawrence (George)